six more months
August 31, 2004, 7:50 pm
Today is the first day of our second trimester! That means we are one-third of the way through, although not really, because we've only know about this mystery for two months. So Troy says we've only experienced one-fifth of the whole thing. I'm not much for math so I don't know if that's correct, but it sounds good. I did expect to feel extra magical today, but really I'm the same old gal. [ 16 comments ] ( 32 views )what's new? he said ... by troy
August 27, 2004, 7:13 pm
Yeah, last night I ran into a friend I haven't seen in several months. He lives in the neighborhood but hey! this is New York. So, I'vd just finished a quick once-around the neighborhood so Max could do his business and along came Parker, fresh off the subway and walking at a brisk pace. He had to pee. (Sorry Parker.) He couldn't stand around and just shoot the breeze with me and my dog. He had to go. But he paused long enough to be cordial."What's new," he said.
"Uhm, not a whole lot," I replied. "I started working at the church."
"Down at the corner?"
"Yeah."
"Huh, well, that's great. Gotta go! Say hi to Jonny!" And off he went.
I didn't even think about mentioning the upcoming BABY GROWING IN JONNY'S WOMB. Didn't even cross my mind.
I went upstairs and casually mentioned to JJ that I'd just ran into Parker.
"Did you him tell we're pregnant?" she asked with the brightest of smiles on her face.
(Awkward pause with a slight head tilt.) "No," I said, "Uhm, he had to pee."[ 7 comments ] ( 98 views )
it's a boy!
August 26, 2004, 8:46 am
Well, according to lots of people, that is. Most of our family and friends predict that we're having a boy. Last night my friend Judy took my chin and pinched it in a certain way, looked at it closely and then nodded and proclaimed, "Boy." So there you have it.Any other scientific experiments out there? [ 13 comments ] ( 110 views )
shouting to the baby by troy
August 22, 2004, 12:53 pm
i tried talking to the baby. but jonny said i was too loud. it was bedtime and all (but for us that's not so late in the evening) and mama2b found my volume level to be a bit disturbing. disturbing to her and disturbing to the ever-growing creature. but i want the baby to hear me. s/he's all wrapped up in stuff down there cooking away.have you ever played that game in a swimming pool and you go under with friends and yell a word or a phrase and they try and figure out what you said? you scream, HELLO! and you come back up for air and they think you said "Sandwich?" or "Vermont?" well, i play it all the time - i played it with two of my nieces a few months ago. it's a very difficult game - even under the best of circumstances. i mean my nieces both speak and can blink and things like that. the baby's still being made! plus, it would be like playing the underwater talking game with one person in the pool with a tarp on top and me on the deck shouting my lungs out. i'd have to very loud to be heard. much louder than i was the other night shouting at jonny's belly.
besides. a lot of people find me to be too loud sometimes. why should my child be any different? and why should i wait 'til s/he's born to figure it out? maybe when s/he arrives it will be very comforting for herim to hear my hootin' and hollerin' and be like: "hear that loud one over there? that's my dad."[ 6 comments ] ( 82 views )
a new development
August 19, 2004, 7:34 pm
Okay, maybe it's my imagination, but I feel like I suddenly have a very obvious stomach bump. I practically look eight months pregnant. All day today I was sure strangers were looking at me in a new way because I look like I'm basically ready to give birth. How did this happen overnight?Clearly I need to get some maternity clothes. [ 5 comments ] ( 74 views )
a cousin is born!
August 17, 2004, 7:29 pm
Last night my sister Jeni gave birth to Lily Starr! Jeni was especially excited to hear our news so that we could be pregnant at the same time, albeit a brief time, and we were both very happy at the thought of our babies being six months apart. Soooo ... she's all done with her pregnancy and is now the mom to two kids. What a woman![ 7 comments ] ( 45 views )public display of affection
August 16, 2004, 9:14 am
Yesterday I had my first uninvited spontaneous public belly rub. Not that there's a whole lot to rub yet, but there I was with someone lovingly touching me in hopes of connecting with this tiny little fetus. Now this was a very close friend of mine, so it actually was pretty sweet and not at all uncomfortable or upsetting, but it did get me thinking. In a few months perfect strangers will probably do this. I've been told over the years that when you're pregnant everyone feels okay about touching you and rubbing you in a way that would never be legal if you weren't. I think I just have to accept it, because I know I've touched my fair share of pregnant bellies and enjoyed every one.[ 20 comments ] ( 63 views )baby face
August 15, 2004, 5:36 pm
the following is an artist's rendition of our baby's face:;)
of course, this rendition is based on a sixty second ultrasound viewing.
more details to follow.[ 2 comments ] ( 57 views )
s/he by troy
August 15, 2004, 4:53 pm
i really like the use of "s/he" to refer to the human-in-the-making growing inside jj's belly. i really like it visually. i know this is old hat but aunt jeni is the first one to use it since we got pregnant. so props to jeni diane.but... i'm not crazy about using it in speech. i don't like the either/or quality to it. and it takes so much time. so i often refer to my baby as a she. it just rolls off the tongue:
she's got a heart that beats 168 times per minute.
she's only the size of a lime.
she's so pretty and well-formed.
she's my baby.
is s/he a girl? i don't know.
because... i often find myself thinking about the future and sitting down with my future child and helping him sit on a bench or tie his shoe or wash his hands and --you guessed it, i think of a little boy and refer to him as a he.
he's my son.
he's growing up into a fine young man.
he's a big boy.
he's trying the best he can.
what does this mean? is something wrong with me? is this child in trouble already?
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we're pregnant! by troy
August 14, 2004, 3:01 pm
That's what I keep saying to people, "Hi! We're pregnant!" Of course, JJ's the one with the womb and all. She's got a brand new life forming on the other side of her navel. Me, my belly's just got guts in it (even if it is bigger than hers). But I like to say, "We're pregnant," because it keeps me involved. Oh sure, I read snippets here and there from various baby books and I like to peek over Jonny's shoulder when she's logged on to some baby website but let's face it, daddy-to-be has got to just hold his horses. Jonny's the star here. (And bit of a super-star if I may say so...) I'm the personal assistant. I'm making smoothies and running out to get egg-n-cheese bisquits I'm calling obgyns and getting the facts straight, I'm setting up appointments but I have to wait 'til March before I get to touch my own baby. Of course, Jonny can't feel the baby right now either. The lil' creature is very gentle despite all the flipping around. And my baby can flip, let me tell you. I saw it on the ultrasound- we thought the peanut was just sleeping down there and alley-oop! just pulled a 360 like that!That's something else I keep saying, "My baby." I know it's "Our baby," but dang! I've waited so long sometimes "my baby" just blurts out.
So anyway. I'm pretty happy that we're pregnant with my baby.[ 7 comments ] ( 79 views )